Posts Tagged ‘preemie mom anxiety

15
Mar
16

Don’t Tell Me It’s “FINE”

He’ll be fine.

It’ll be fine.

My daughter only weighs 5 pounds more than him and she’s FINE.

I knew someone with clubfoot and he’s fine.

My preemie was never in isolation and she’s fine.

FINE. FINE. FINE.

Yeah, he’s mostly fine. I am not fine. This may turn out to be nothing. I hope to God and all the other powers that be that it turns out to be nothing. But if it is something? What then?

Someday, I will learn that when an acquaintance asks me how I am the truth is almost never a good idea.

“How are you today?”

“Ok.”

“Aw, it’s a pretty spring day. Why are you just OK?”

Because I’m waiting to hear if my child has a serious condition and the specialist appointment is still 3 weeks away. Because, I just don’t feel fine today.

I need to let it go. I need to stop the negative cycle so I don’t beat myself up when (hopefully) everything is fine.

The difference between me and some other moms out there? There have been 4 (5 if you count the scary pregnancy) years of moments when a ton of crap wasn’t FINE.

Because I actually like and respect this person, I went with a bit of truth. (mistake)

“Because we have to add a specialist from Children’s to Drake’s care team…again.”

Then, I had to give more of the story than I really feel like telling. I really want to be that optimistic mom, the one who is unshakable and believes the best until the worst is confirmed. Unfortunately, being positive is something I suck at.

To top it off, he only ate about 300 calories yesterday. GRRR.

Poor blog, I only feel like journal-ing when I’m “sad mad.”

 

17
Sep
12

Birthday Party

We took Drake to his first birthday party. It was his great grandmother’s 75th birthday. I didn’t want to, but I also didn’t want us to miss it. I wore him in a carrier, warned people off, stayed away from the middle of the crowd as much as possible, ¬†and was extremely relieved it was outside at a park.

It was a gorgeous day. He loved being outside and looking around at all the people. I was a bundle of anxiety the WHOLE time, and I think I’m going to continue to be for the next two weeks until we know that he’s not going to get sick from it.

 




Drake’s 3rd Birthday

February 20th, 2015

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